"Our Song"

"That song came on today.
The one you loved.
The one we listened to together,
The one whose melody mingles with so many of our memories.

A soundtrack in the background of our days."

This poem, written by Liz Newman, was found on her Facebook page.  She has also written a book titled "I Look to the Mourning Sky" (among other resources for those who are grieving).  Her book and daily poems found on Facebook have been a great help to me in the grieving process.

Although my journey may be different than others, it has been my journey from caregiving to loss, and the grief and emptiness that follows.  And a realization that I have a "new" title now...

Widow.  Funny how things go!  I can finally say it...I AM A WIDOW!

Years ago when I began my first blog, I wrote about the journey I was on as caregiver for my husband who had dementia.  Through various posts and writings, I discovered that I was a CAREGIVER, but that I was also a WRITER!  

So in learning that, I have been reflecting on my journey through each of these phases, as well as the years as wife and mother.  This poem caught my eye, but also triggered this reflection as well:

"Why is it I can't remember a song that was our song?  Did we have a special song?  Is there a song that reminds me of you?  Not really!  Nothing comes to mind!  Yet...that really doesn't mean there wasn't one!

I love music!  You loved music, too!  You were a musician; in college majoring in music, playing the trombone in the band.  I didn't know you then; but you continued to play music and when I did meet you, tyou were playing the harmonica in a band with a few of your friends.

When our daughter was old enough and wanted to learn to play the piano, you were her teacher!  There was always music around us!

And you did love that George Beverly Shay song..."How Great Thou Art!"  Maybe that was your song and we didn't really have a special song.

Who says there has to be one certain song?!  Music in itself is a clear reminder of a loved on, whatever it is!

What is/was your special song.  Or, what other "thing" triggers those memories of your loved one?  Share them in the comments!